Here’s the thing with sex toys – they are fun. You have to do your homework though before you can enjoy what they have to offer. Fortunately, the learning curve that comes along with nearly all sex toys is something many people can handle. Two or three days into sex toys adventures and you become a pro. Before all that however, it is important to note the following sex toys basics.
There’s No Such Things As A Sex Toy ExpertThis may sound strange but it is true. Look at it this way – the adult toys market features so many different sex toys with different designs. If you were to count what’s available in the market, you’d most likely quit mid-day. There are sex toys you actually haven’t seen yet and maybe you’ll never even see them. You can only be a sex toy expert in a specific category like vibrators or may be dildos. If you’re a novice, with the zeal to find out as much as you can about toys, then yeah, slow down. Take your time.
Hygiene Is EverythingThis applies even to sex toys like sub collars that don’t seem to demand so much in terms of hygiene. You may not know it but hygiene alone when it comes to sex toys stands out as the main different between good sex and bad sex. It is easy to understand why…
Use of sex toys means there’ll be some contact with body fluids. So yeah, sex can be dirty and sexy at the same time. That’s not really much of a problem. Problem creeps in once you both don’t want to clean up the toys after use. The thought of it alone isn’t so pleasant. Cleaning may not be fun. Using clean toys is however fun!
You really don’t need to stress so much over the hygiene issue. The best way to go about it is to simply have wet wipes with you. There are so many of them in the market from scented and mild scented to 100% non-scented wet wipes. Have a pack by the bedside so you can clean up as you have fun. Once you’re done, be sure to use some soap and plenty of running lukewarm water.
There Could Be Some PainRelax, it’s really nothing you should worry about. It’s pretty much the same thing with what happens when women lose their virginity. A little pain at first. From then on, it’s fun all the way. For sex toys, there may not be pain as such. It could just be some discomfort which sometimes happens because you’re not using a toy as it should be used.
Too much pain should certainly get you concerned. Be sure to use some lube too. You’ll actually notice pretty fast that lube is all you need to get rid of any discomfort. This is especially the case with thunderbeads, anal plugs and many other penetrative sex toys. There are rare cases though where you may experience discomfort because of other reasons. It could be medical reasons or that your partner is pretty rough. In case of the former, always seek medical assistance.
There’ll Be Lessons For YouHere’s the thing with sex – the more you explore the more you learn. A toy could look basic as it is the case with the sub collar. Use it though and you quickly learn there are so many ways it can turn you on. You also learn there’s a way you should handle it. The can be said of the sensations that come along with sex toys. Thunder beads may feel strange the first time you use them. Use them more and more and you begin to enjoy them differently. Each experience then becomes unique. Ultimately, you begin to learn more and more about toys. More importantly, you learn more and more about your body.
Patience Is EverythingGood sex is all about bidding your time. It calls for patience. The stakes get even higher where sex toys are involved. This is a major issue particularly for women because foreplay plays a key role when it comes to female ejaculation. With that in mind, consider using sex toys as part of your foreplay plan.
Note too that people are different. Your partner may not have a hard time learning the ropes and figuring out how to make the most of the sex toys at hand. You on the other hand, could be a slow learner. That’s fine. You don’t need to rush anything. As a matter of fact, rushing could very easily ruin your appetite or the soft spot you already have for sex toys. In a nutshell, one step at a time, one orgasm at a time until you can use your favourite sex toys with your eyes closed.
Sex Toys Get Old TooYour beloved sub collar could be all glossy and sexy. It could be the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen. Guess what though, like any other possession you have under you roof, it’ll get old with time. In fact, the more you use it, the older it gets. This isn’t a bad thing in any way. It is normal. The whole idea here is simple. Brace yourself – and be ready to hit a sex toy store every once in a while to buy new toys.
Here’s a tip you’ll find useful – take good care of your toys and they’ll take good care of you. They’ll last too. Good care in this case means you have to maintain your toys well. Wash them often, don’t share them and don’t keep the under direct sunlight. It is also important to remember that your toys should always be kept dry whenever they’re not in use.
Take your time too when shopping for sex toys. Stick to well-known and respected brands. Read reviews online if you have to. Ask around too if you’re not sure. There are so many forums online where sex toys enthusiasts post and exchange ideas and experiences anonymously. Take advantage of such forums.
Sex Toys And ConsentYou may feel the urge to try something new with your toys once in a while. You may then assume that your partner is okay with the ideas you have in mind. That may not be the case though. If you’re not careful, it could land you in trouble. Yes, you’re both into sex toys but you both have independent minds. That’s exactly where consent comes into the picture.
Be sure to ask your partner what they think about the toys you want to purchase. Sure, you can surprise each other with as many different toys as you want. When it comes to using them though, you must be 100% sure that your partner doesn’t mind. In short, always be on the same page with your partner when it comes to sex toys.